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Some of us have anxiety and fear surrounding hanging out with people because we often feel the burden of having to entertain them 24/7.
Does that resonate?
What if you’re laid back and want to be quiet sometimes?
You may feel like people would think you’re boring, or they’d assume something’s wrong, right?
What if I told you, it’s not your responsibility to entertain others?
This may come as a surprise but there are countless people in the world who aren’t wired like that.
You know the type - somewhat introverted but can talk the house down if they get to know you😉.
If you’re this kind of person, entertaining others can start to feel like a chore. Your worth is not in what you DO but in who you ARE. Do you know who you are?
I may not know everything about you, but…
You are worthy to have people show up for the way you are, not for the thrill or excitement you drum up to please them.
You are worthy to have the right company around that love and appreciate your silent moments, just as much as your wild moments, your chill moods just as much as your energetic moves, your inner strength as much as your outward dreams.
Stop being who others want you to be for fear of abandonment.
If they think you’re boring because you don’t want to always be the life of the party, or you don’t have much to say at the moment - it’s all good!
Make space for those who like to spend time with you for YOU. This means you’ll need to discover, embrace and show the rest of YOU (not the parts you think people want to see). This step will help you start naturally inviting in the kind of people that harmonize with your life and think you’re awesome without the pom poms.
As you’re opening up more to people, share your thoughts, your likes, dislikes, what makes you happy, sad, things you’re truly passionate about, what a great time looks like hanging out and so on. Give people enough of the real so they can be informed on how you are and how you really feel.
Did you know when I’m not writing and recording music I like to chill and watch movies on Pureflix? Then the next day I can get amped watching my favorite NBA teams play! Go Warriors! Go Pacers!
Hanging out with me could be great inspiring conversations or deep thoughts about the state of the world - oh my, I can get going on that lol. At the end of the day, I’m ME (all of me). If I pretend to be one way ONLY and never show the other textures of my personality, I’ll only get people who like to hang out or like me for the layer of excitement, motivation and entertainment.
See what I’m getting at?
Be YOU (all of your unique flavors) and know you’re WORTHY and VALID.
I actually have a song on the new Mind Flight ✈️️ album called “Don’t Mynd Meee” that shares a little bit of sarcasm with how I see the world. A different spin than previous releases, which is a good thing! It helps to show my other viewpoints.
It’s okay to be different without feeling ashamed of your real thoughts and feelings.
People pleasing and hiding parts of yourself causes trauma and wounds, but you can heal from that. Healing is definitely a process and as I continue my own healing journey from childhood until now, I thought sharing some of my thoughts could help you reflect on your healing journey as well and remind yourself that you are worthy for just being YOU.
Head Up! Shoulders Back!
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Love the article. I'm a chill, laid back person. I love to walk the trails & breathe in Yah's fresh air from his beautiful creation. I find peace just walking the dog with my hand speaker playing Yah's Music as I walk through the neighborhood. I'll jump in the car real quick and cruise with Yah's Music playing and enjoying the sceneries. I'll get out in my drive way with Yah's Music playing & jumping rope. I'll go from a gym scenery to chilling at home watching a movie. When I was younger, I had a problem with being a loner but when I got older I realized that Yah had his hand on my life and He was protecting me. That's how I got into Music because I wasn't going to ROLL with the nonsense. In the teenage years, I was chillin in my room listening to music and handing out free tapes to people in my neighborhood. I was the neighborhood "DJ." As a young person, I struggled with that but Now I don't have a problem with chillin by myself. That's why my favorite song is, "Till The Wheels Fall Off" It says "If I got to Roll with myself so be it, I ain't trying to be entertained by demons. I ain't trying to Roll, Roll, Roll with the heathens. I got to live righteous and get back to Eden . . ." Music basically saved my life, Music kept me from hanging on the street corners & running with the wrong crowd. I find my peace in Music & I'm so Blessed that Yah's directed me to your live channel. I'm going to Roll, Roll, Roll with Yah . . .